Seeking Clarity ?

I get it—feeling confused is exhausting. It’s like you’re carrying this constant sense of unrest, your mind buzzing with all the things you should figure out, but no matter how hard you try, the answers just won’t come. I’ve been there. For a long time, I thought the way out was to overthink it. I’d keep spinning in circles, hoping to land on the right answer—one that gave me the comfort I was desperately chasing.

The clarity you’re looking for isn’t going to show up while you sit there, trying to think your way through it. It only shows up when you move.

The Loop of Confusion and Avoidance

When I was stuck, it wasn’t just about not knowing what to do—it was about wanting to know without actually doing anything. I kept hoping clarity would hit me out of nowhere, that if I thought hard enough, the right answer would appear. But every time I avoided taking action, I only fed the confusion.

And here’s where it got tricky—waiting for clarity turned into a habit, and before I knew it, the anxiety crept in. I kept running from decisions, filling the void with distractions, hoping that some breakthrough would save me. But all that waiting just thickened the fog.

Taking Action, Step by Step

I remember I kept telling myself I wanted to get back into exercising. I knew it would help me feel better, but I kept waiting—for the perfect workout, for more energy, for motivation to just show up. And every time I thought about it, confusion flooded my mind:

• “What’s the right workout?”

• “What if I don’t see any results?”

• “Should I join a gym or exercise at home?”

This mental clutter leads to inaction, and the more you delay, the more anxious you feel about starting.

This mental back-and-forth dragged on until I felt completely overwhelmed. But one day, instead of waiting for the perfect moment, I made a choice: I grabbed my yoga mat and just started. No fancy plan—just some random stretches for 10 minutes.

The next day, after work, I came home, changed, and went to the gym—without a plan. I didn’t know what I was going to do, but once I got there, I saw the treadmill and thought, Alright, I’ll start here. One step taken.

Over the next few days, I tried a bit of everything—random YouTube workout videos, even though I didn’t like most of them. Slowly, I began to figure out what I enjoyed, what worked for me, and what times felt right for my schedule. It wasn’t perfect, and honestly, it still isn’t. But each step made the next one a little easier.

 So instead of thinking endlessly, you take just one small step?

1. Choose one action: “I’ll go do 10-minute of stretching today today.”

2. Execute the action: No perfect plan, no overthinking—just 10 minutes.

3. Notice the shift: Suddenly, the idea of exercising doesn’t seem as intimidating anymore. Clarity begins to seep in—you realize that the action wasn’t as hard as it felt in your mind.

It’s Not a One-and-Done Thing

Even now, there are times when I get stuck again. Something new will come up, and the old pattern creeps back—anxiety, avoidance, days slipping by without doing anything. But here’s the difference: I don’t judge myself for it anymore. I’ve learned that this will happen. It’s just part of being human.

Instead of beating myself up, I remind myself: This is happening, and I can do this. It’s okay to feel confused or anxious. It’s okay to have moments where you freeze. But the key is to gently nudge yourself forward again, one small step at a time.

A Reminder, Not a Judgment

What I’m talking about here isn’t a magic solution or a cure for anxiety—it’s a reminder. When confusion hits, when you find yourself stuck, it’s not a failure. It’s just a moment. And in that moment, you have a choice: to judge yourself for not having it all figured out, or to remind yourself that this is just part of the process—and you can move forward, one step at a time.

If you’re sitting in that fog right now, waiting for the perfect answer, I want you to know that you don’t need to have everything figured out. Just take one small step, however messy or awkward it feels. The clarity you’re searching for will meet you on the other side of that action.

And when you get stuck again—and you will, because that’s how it works—remember: This is happening, and I can do this. Moving forward isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up, over and over again, knowing that every small step makes a difference.

Clarity Lies on the Other Side of the Action You Are Avoiding